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Thank you all for the beautiful thoughts and wishes you have been sending.  Man, you have no idea how beautiful it is to get them.   Here are a few that you wanted to share.  Thank you... thank you... thank you.  

(When Dr. Brem told us that patients have told him, when they look back, that this may have been the best thing that had happened to them, he just might be right.)

From Sam

I was nine years old when I saw my first guitar.  Sure I'd seen it on T.V. before then, but never up close and personal.    Behind a store glass window, there it was, and a sign reading: "First month's lesson free!"  Of course I pleaded with my parents, but the answer was no.   All the same to me, I always knew that at some point I was going to play this instrument.

Fast-forward to age eighteen, I was an arrogant kid on his way to college to study engineering, but I had been playing guitar all the while.   I had this great guitar teacher several years back who schooled me on some chords and things, but the lessons were cut short after a year or so.  I found books and made up my own charts and tried to study guitar on my own during the rest of high school.  Then I met Suzanne.

I should back up a moment, first I met Genevieve.  Actually, I had a big-time crush on her.   She was the smartest kid in school, so it was hard not to, but when I met her mom it all made sense.  Most parents would be wise to take a page out of Suzanne's notebook.   So like I was saying, I met Suzanne in the latter half of senior year. 

We became friends instantly.   Usually the parents I met seemed more like the poster children of a humdrum, nine-to-five life, but not Suzanne.   I was too young to put my finger on it then, but I knew that Suzanne was driven by a different purpose than most.  She didn't get out of bed each morning to make cash, or pad reputation; she was after something much more abstract and enamoring.  

Later that summer, we're talking 1998 here, she secretly arranged a meeting between my former guitar teacher and myself.    On the day of the meeting all was disclosed, I was to meet Jim that afternoon.  Talk about a good time, seeing Jim again was a reaffirming moment in my life.  It wasn't so much the person, as good a guy as Jim is, but it was being reconnected with an excellent musician.  The high school bands I formed were mediocre to say the least, to be in the presence of a virtuoso had, and still does have, a directing force in my life.

That was nine years ago, but the moment sits perfectly in my memory.  For everything I know about Suzanne, one thing is for sure, she takes everything personally.   At first that sounds like a backhanded compliment, but it's actually an unusually valued quality in a person.  Suzanne is engaged, always has been, and always will be.   I say she takes things personally because she's in touch with folks: she listens and reflects, never nods and forgets.  Most people I meet prefer to be impersonal, rarely willing to risk enough of themselves to make anything truly worthwhile.   But Suzanne has always confounded my expectations, choosing the personal and engaged, albeit risky route, instead of the deflecting and all too common disconnected route.  

Years after I reconnected with my guitar teacher, I started teaching guitar myself.  I did this for several years and for part of that time I worked across the street from Jim.  We would have lunch every Saturday with the other music teachers, and of course we would talk about music.    My dreams as a boy had come full circle, getting to sit with experts and discuss music in all its mysteriousness.  And although I was the one that had practiced endlessly at my instrument, it was Suzanne who showed me that life without passion is tantamount to dying young.

We call it cliché, but it's never surprising to find the most impressive people to also be the ones who are most passionate.    If you're reading this, then you're alive.  That sounds painfully obvious, but there's more than meets the eye.   We were given life, and what we don't use we lose.  Make no mistake about it, the clock is ticking, and when it hits zero it's all over.  This is hardly depressing, it's an outright celebration. 

There is no logical reason to think that I had to be born.   There's no logical reason to think that I should be born into an educated family, with a roof over my head and food on my plate.  Yet these things happened nonetheless, and so my life is nothing short of a great prize, really the only prize that has any meaning.   So how should I ration my gift of time and consciousness?  It's so simple that often the eyes of a child, and not of an adult, can recognize the optimal strategy: do what you love.   It is what you will be best at, it is what you will enjoy most, in short, it is the optimal way for you to spend your time and attention, even if it means living modestly.   Reputation is important, and we can stockpile it, money is even more important, and we can stockpile it, but time is easily the most precious commodity we have: it is of finite supply and it decreases every single moment regardless of our efforts to bank it.

I learned this from my friend Suzanne, and I did need to learn it.  No one single person has had a more significant impact on my life than Suzanne Sutton.   So here we are talking about brain surgery.   I'm naturally concerned, but Suzanne leads a model life: regular exercise, nutritious diet, lots of mental stimulation and she loves all of it.   If anyone is fit for surgery, it's Suzanne.  I'm not even going to say good luck, because she patently doesn't need it.  

 

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From Jamey

 

Hi Suzanne. I just wanted to let you know that you brighten up the lives of so many people, you don't even know all of them.  When I was having my surgery done a couple months ago you sent me a huge package of freshly baked bread.  (Hmm... if I never thanked you for the package, thank you very much!)  It was certainly more bread than I could eat (especially since I wasn't eating much more than jello and protein shakes at the time) so some of it went into the freezer.

A couple days ago I was foraging for food and found a package carefully wrapped in tinfoil in the back of my freezer. I pulled it out and patiently waited for it to defrost. (It was tough, but I knew that an impatient man with a microwave could ruin the prize that was inside.)

A few hours later I opened the package with eager anticipation. Hmm... I saw berries and... were those walnuts? I think so.  I sliced myself a couple pieces and... whoa! How could something that had been frozen for so long be so delicious??? As I was munching, however, I realized that I will be hitting the road in just a few days. I couldn't possibly eat all of this before I left.  So I decided to share.

The people I work with are very fond of what we call "snackage."  (I don't know if we've trademarked that term or not, but we probably should. It's a good word.)   Occasionally people will bring in snacks for all to share. Being a fancy professor now I feel that it is my duty to provide the occasional snackage. Usually the crew is excited by things as bad as "Crunchy Flamin' Hot Cheetos" or Doritos in bags with color pictures of the Mexican Soccer Team (some of my female colleagues think that soccer players are cute), but I thought it was time to give them something a little classier, tastier, and perhaps even more nutritious.

Yep... they got what was left of your bread.  It didn't last long. I believe it was devoured by noon.  But that didn't stop people from talking about it for the rest of the day. Usually you don't hear what becomes of the snackage you provide. It gets eaten and people move on with their lives.  This time was different, though. Evidently people began to discuss the snackage - most specifically they wanted to know where it came from.  And then word got back to me... the snackage was delicious.  I think there were also subtle hints that any chance of similar snackage in the future would be most appreciated.

I was again foraging in my freezer last night and lo and behold, there was another glimmering tinfoil covered package.  I think the loaves are multiplying in my magic freezer.  Perhaps my colleagues will get another special snackage before too long. Thanks for the wonderful bread! I'm enjoying eating it and sharing it.

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